It’s been a long time since I wrote in a post and although the majority of you don’t care what I’m posting, a few of you reached out and asked when to expect the next one and that felt so nice. So for the three of you that requested it, here it is:

It’s Thursday evening. I’m writing from my kitchen table. It’s like 15 minutes past 6 and I’ve been sitting here all day working. Lately for the last 5-6 months, I’ve been working tirelessly. It’s been the focus of my day and night.If I want to achieve my goals, I have no choice but to be consumed by work. I’ve also been Momming more. Raaya and I have been getting really close recently mashAllah. We just talk and talk and talk and talk on some nights. We’re in the middle of a really beautiful chapter of our lives, alhumdullilah. 

I’ve been seeing copies of my Muslim Girlfriend’s Guide to Divorce selling more these last few weeks and gauging by the inquiries I get during my Q&A – I just know a lot of us are struggling. It’s a strange time of year. Here, in Toronto, it’s cold, gray, and uneventful. I like the uneventful part but it almost feels like we’re living the same day over and over again. Alhumdullilah. Do you guys feel like that or is it all in my head?

My sister in law just lost her father. I feel so terrible that I can’t be there with her at a time when she deserves to be surrounded by loved ones. She was part of every step when I lost my parents – I wish we could do the same for her.

Raaya is at her dad’s tonight and we swapped a few days mid week because he just came back from vacation. We’ve actually been contemplating rearranging our schedule temporarily. I need more flexibility on my weeknights to work and wouldn’t mind the extra time to spend with her on weekend evenings where I can let her stay up late. I just worry how she’ll like the change and I don’t want it to impact her. She’s had this same schedule every week for the last 5 years of her life. Would introducing change at this point throw her off? This is me thinking out loud.

I’ve also been regularly exercising. That is an entire task in itself. To prepare meals, have enough readily available snacks, staying on my eating and my vitamins and my water. It’s a full time job but I’m enjoying it again. I’ve been really stressed with work and working out is an amazing outlet where I can expend some energy and start my day. It’s like a caffeine supplement for me. Such an amazing mood boost.

Anyway – I have to cook dinner now before I’m starving and start eating every snack in sight. I’m making spicy cajun chicken pasta with bocconcini tomato and arugula salad in front of Real Housewives of Miami and going to sleep early. 


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